22 May 2024

My Family Travel Essentials for Trips to Poland

May 22, 2024 0 Comments

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When I first came to the UK, going back home to visit felt much easier. I was supposed to only be here temporarily, as a student, so my parents kept me on their health insurance and I didn't need to worry about needing to visit a doctor while home. I kept my Polish phone number for quite a while, so whenever I'd visit I could use it because I was visiting much more often then - I could just book some time off, find a cheap ticket, and go multiple times a year.

As it became clear I was staying in the UK for good, going home meant additional things that needed sorting ahead of travel. And when you add children into the mix, it really feels like a mission!

Luckily, there are a few items that you can get, that will make any trips to continental Europe just a little bit easier - these are all that I personally use every time we travel.

1. HyperJar card

I moved to the UK just after finishing high school, never worked back in Poland, and never had a chance to open a bank account. That means that on our trips to Poland, we'd have to use our UK cards, meaning foreign transaction charges - it's not too bad when you withdraw money from a cash machine there and only get a one-off charge, but the reality is that we're used to using cards to pay for everything now. Alternatively, we could take some cash with us and get it exchanged, but again it comes to the point that we hardly use cash.

This is why I now always use my HyperJar card when visiting Poland. I actually got one of them when adverts for all the pocket money cards for kids started popping up, but I didn't want to pay monthly fees for a service I knew we'd only use occasionally. That's when I found HyperJar, which is a free budgeting app where you can add money to then sort into virtual "jars" for different expenses or savings. In there you can create a kids' "jar" connected to your  main account and order them a card - you can transfer them money in seconds, and get notifications every time they spend. They've now introduced a one-off £4.99 processing fee for new kids' cards, but you get a £5 Amazon discount in return and there's no ongoing monthly fees.

So my first reason for getting HyperJar was that it offered a free children's card that I could use for pocket money, but I later learned that they are also great for travel - not only can you set up special travel jars, which can help to avoid overspending, but you also get to use your cards with zero fees and competitive exchange rates. 

You can check out all the details by clicking the image below: 


EHIC/GHIC + travel insurance

Although I'm a Polish citizen, and so are the kids, we don't get free healthcare, because again - I don't work there, don't pay National Insurance, so obviously not entitled to it. This is why we always get travel insurance, and we also have the EHIC/GHIC.

In case you don't know - EHIC is the European Health Insurance Card, which is a free card that entitles you to medically necessary state-provided healthcare during a temporary visit to any of the EU and EEA countries. You get access to treatment just like any person insured in those countries, often completely free depending on the particular healthcare system. It's important to remember though, that it doesn't cover private healthcare or any pre-planned procedures, and won't cover any costs beyond what's provided by the public healthcare system. It's still useful for emergencies - one of my work colleagues found himself in a situation where he needed an urgent surgery, and without the EHIC he would've been looking at thousands of pounds of medical fees.

Since Brexit, EHIC in the UK was replaced by GHIC (Global Health Insurance Card) which works on the same principle. EU citizens residing in the UK with rights under the Withdrawal Agreement can apply for the UK EHIC instead. The cards are free and valid for 5 years - you can add family members to your application, but every person will receive their own card. Also, make sure to only apply through NHS and not any third-party websites that might try to charge you! 

SIM card with EU roaming

Before Brexit, you could use your standard allowance in the EU with pretty much every network. Now most of them still offer this, but some introduced extra charges unless you've been with the network for some time before the changes - for example my husband is with Three, and unless you're on certain plan, there's a daily charge for their Go Roam of £2 in Europe and £5 in the rest of the world. 

If your current plan doesn't offer free EU roaming, I'd recommend getting a SIM that does - I'm currently with Giffgaff on a monthly rolling plan, so my roaming is included with data capped at 5GB, while the PAYG gets charged at regular UK prices. Mr's other phone has a Lebara SIM, and again you can use your allowance just like at home with their plans, or at home prices on PAYG - you can also buy a Roaming Add-On for 10 or 15 days, which gives you a number of minutes and texts, plus a generous data allowance for your trip. 

If you want to check out Lebara and some of their plans (you can get a 30-day SIM only plan for just £5), CLICK HERE and you can enjoy up to 50% off plans for 3 months using my referral code. 

Xplora kids' watches 

Still kind of within the topic of phones and SIM cards. A couple of years ago I was testing kids' smartwatches from Xplora. First, we received an Xplora X5 Play for the eldest, and it's been a travel accessory for us ever since! 

The Xplora smartwatches are a perfect replacement for a phone, especially for the younger children. They come with step count, GPS, school mode, selfie camera, and call and messaging functions. The watch is managed by an app on a parent's phone, where you can add trusted phone numbers to the watch's contacts. The child can then make calls to those, and only those pre-approved contacts. Due to the screen size, there's no text messaging capability, but if a parent sends a message, the child can then reply with an emoji, photo, pre-set message, or a voice note. They can also earn points and rewards for being active.

I found the tracking pretty accurate - if we're at home, my app tracks the watches at our exact home address 99% of the time (sometimes shows us as the next door ;)). Voice quality is pretty decent, and the camera is good enough for a quick selfie - for example if the eldest goes to the park on his own, he can snap a selfie showing me he reached there safely.  

The X5 Play model we initially got now seems discontinued, but there's a slightly newer X6 Play available. We also own an XGO3 model for Mini, with pretty much the same functionalities, and I recently received the new Kidzi model a slight upgrade for the eldest.

Personally, I found the watches a great alternative to phones for children. I feel better knowing that if we go on a trip and, God forbid, they get lost, I'll be able to get in touch with them and vice versa. It gives us that peace of mind especially when going abroad, where they don't speak the language, and they can panic and forget our phone numbers. The watches being strapped to their wrists are also safer than having phones in their pockets, which they can potentially lose while out and about. 

You can check out the Xplora watches on Amazon, where you'll find all the models currently on offer, including the Kidzi which is an Amazon exclusive. You'll be able to choose from a variety of colours, and there's even an option to purchase the watch with Xplora SIM and plan already included. 

18 May 2024

Packing a Family for a Summer City Break (with printable checklist)

May 18, 2024 0 Comments

Packing for family holidays can get pretty stressful. Especially when you're flying a budget airline and don't want to pay loads for extra luggage - we always squeeze our family of four into one 20kg suitcase, so I need to be quite smart with the packing.

It's definitely a bit easier in the summer, with lighter clothes that take up less space, but then again I'm one of those people who tend to overpack - because kids might need extras, because we might do something we didn't plan in advance, and what if the weather changes? Yeah, you can tell I'm a bit of an overthinker!

It's also a bit different for me to pack for a family visit. If we were going on a proper holiday, I would have all the activities planned, and hence I'd know what kind of clothes we'd need. When we go to Poland, it's mostly about visiting the family - we might have a couple of days out planned in advance, but mostly we just go with the flow. This time we're also attending a wedding, so I need to account for an outfit each for that day.

Bearing in mind that we have a limited suitcase space, I've put my foot down and set down some rules on how much everyone is allowed to take. I narrowed it down to the following list:

Oh yes, I'm a list kind of person. And it has to be on paper, digital planners just don't cut it for me. I think it's because I'm a reading/writing type of learner, and it's the easiest for me to follow written instructions, so it's really helpful to have a list I can tick off. 

When packing, I find it useful to separate things into categories. I consider what clothes need to be packed for the kids, what for me and the Mr, then which toiletries we need to pack, what travel documents we have to have, the electronics, and any other bits we might need.

On my printable list I left the space to put the number of items that you might want to pack, depending on the length of your stay. 

As we're going to Poland soon, staying for 10 days (I don't count the travel and the wedding we'll be attending this time), I thought I'd share how I pack our family of 4 for a city break there

Here's a sample packing guide for our 10-day city break in Poland:

For the kids:

I have two children, a boy and a girl with a 4-year age gap between them, so there will be a difference in what I pack for them. Mini is a really girly girl, so she'll want some summer dresses when the eldest will be wearing a t-shirt and shorts, so I just swap that accordingly.


When it comes to city breaks, the best thing is that in an emergency you'll be likely to find a shop to buy any extras you might need, or at least have easier access to washing facilities. I always have to keep in mind too that my Mum will have bought some stuff for her grandchildren, so I need to save some space for bringing that back with me! 

For myself:

No shorts on my list as I keep my outfits more modest, but again it's just an example of what I personally pack on holidays and you can obviously adjust the list according to your preferences. Also my husband, of course, swaps the dresses for extra t-shirts and trousers ;)

Hand luggage essentials

When we're traveling with a check-in bag, I try to keep our cabin bags simple - nothing worse than stressing around the airport with a heavy bag... Although who am I kidding, I always end up with an overloaded backpack on the way back when we're given way too much stuff to take back to the UK with us and our main suitcase ends up exceeding the weight allowance.

To make things easier (at least in theory), everyone takes their own cabin bag. I keep hold of all the travel documents in one place, but apart from that we each have our own things for easy access, so I don't have to dig through one overpacked rucksack.

Notice that I put spare clothes on there - even though my children are not little anymore, they tend to have trouble with a bit of travel sickness, so a spare t-shirt can be useful. I actually also take a few small plastic bags in case they get sick on the plane, as Ryanair removed the pockets on the backs of the seats and the little paper bag isn't right in front of you anymore for immediate access.



First of all - if you're traveling with a check-in bag, I'd say don't bother with the travel-sized stuff. Should you buy brand new toiletries for the trip? Depends - I'd rather take some that are maybe half-full, and if they run out, you just discard the bottles and have fewer things to bring back, so unless I *actually* need some new product, I just take the ones we already have at home. The only new thing I tend to buy are toothbrushes, so we can pack them ahead and not forget after brushing in the morning. I also don't bother with decanting things into the travel bottles, as it's easier to just pack everything in the check-in bag. The only things I put in the hand luggage would be a bottle of hand sanitiser, and maybe a small body spray - and if it's a morning flight, some make-up that I'd used just before leaving home. And again, as I mentioned above - if it's a city break, it should be easy to grab some basics from any local supermarket if needed.

General preparation tips, and things to do before leaving home

  • Set your alarm!
  • Make sure you have all your passports in the bag
  • Double check all your boarding passes
  • Make sure all devices (phones, power banks, tablets, e-readers etc.) are fully charged
  • Download movies/shows, books, games - make sure those are playable offline
  • Water plants
  • Unplug electronics, turn off sockets
  • Make sure all the windows and doors are locked
  • Remove any food that will go bad before your return - it's a good idea to keep something ready for when you come back though, like a carton of UHT milk, some cereal, loaf of bread in the freezer and maybe some ready meal
  • Empty the bins
  • Get your travel outfits laid out for everyone to just quickly change before leaving
  • Prepare any snacks or meal to eat before the trip to the airport

Don't forget you can just CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD A PRINTABLE LIST to help you with packing for your next trip!

17 April 2024

Days Trips From Manchester - Mam Tor, Peak District

April 17, 2024 0 Comments
If you see a map of Poland, we have the sea in the north and a few mountain ranges in the south of the country - our southern border is actually naturally formed by the Carpathia Mountains.

I'm from the South, from a rather hilly area - my hometown was built on seven hills. Most places close enough for a day trip are in the mountains - Tatra Mountains, Pieniny, Beskidy, Bieszczady, you can take your pick. Naturally, this was the sort of trip we'd take when I was younger. Family trips, school trips, and some outings we went to through Dad's work, usually involved hiking. 

After I moved to the UK, hiking definitely fell off my list for a while. I spent a weekend in Zakopane during the summer visit back home once, and then a few years later I took my now husband there on his first visit to Poland. Then along came baby number one, then the second one - we did visit the mountains when in Poland, but we were only ever able to have a walk through the valleys and any actual hiking was out of the question. I decided, however, that once I was confident that they can handle it, we'd be visiting the mountains again on our holidays.

Fast forward to now, we live in Manchester. So close to the Peak District, that on a drive towards Stockport or Ashton, we can actually see the hills - and I'm telling you, when we get to fly to Poland, the landing on the way back, low over the hills, is truly special.

It was actually back in 2020 when we first decided it was a good idea to start trying some easy hiking routes - Eid was coming up, we couldn't meet up with anyone due to lockdown restrictions, and not wanting to just spend the day at home, we spent some time researching child-friendly hiking routes in Peak District. And that's how we ended up first going up the Mam Tor.

Mam Tor, which translates to "Mother Hill", is a 517m (1,696ft) peak overlooking Castleton in Derbyshire. Located just under 30 miles from Manchester, it's a great place for a day out and a perfect spot for beginner hikers. It's a relatively easy climb, particularly if you begin the approach at the Mam Nick car park - the path is paved all the way to the summit, with steps on the steeper parts of the hill. This makes it easy even for the youngest hikers - our daughter was just under 3 years old on our first visit there, and was able to walk most of the way on her own. 

[Photo from our first 2020 hike with the toddler]

You can enjoy climbing Mam Tor as a part of a circular walk, with a few routes that can stretch for up to 8 miles. However, if you're a beginner who wants to start small, or walking with smaller children, you can easily keep it short and just climb up, have a picnic on the top, and get back down. 

In this case, start at Mam Nick car park. From there it's only about 550 metres (approx. 0.3 miles) to the trig point. At the back of the car park, you'll find the footpath, which will be the first part of your walk to the summit.

For the most part, the footpath runs parallel to a road - once you reach the end of the path, you'll meet the bend in said road. This is the point where some other paths meet, and you'll need to enter through the wooden gate for the actual approach to the summit. From there you just need to follow the steps and then a bit of straight paved path to reach the top.

It's not an overly challenging walk, you'll see plenty of children and walkers of varying abilities along the way. Once you reach the top, you'll find the trig point (might wait a while for a photo opportunity on a busy day), and there are some breathtaking views. And you're likely to meet a few sheep on the way too!

Things worth noting:

  • If you plan on starting from the Mam Nick car park, arrive early. This National Trust-operated car park only has about 80 spaces, and fills up quickly on weekends and during school holidays. National Trust members park for free, but non-members will be charged £4.50 for up to 4 hours, and £6 for more than 4 hours (prices correct at the time of writing), and you can only pay by phone. If, when you get there, the car park is full, there are some spaces available along the main road, with entry gates onto paths that will get you to the summit. Be mindful of how you park though, it's easy to get caught out by double yellow lines (we narrowly avoided that after noticing that the whole line of cars on a part of the road had the fines stuck on!).
  • There are no facilities. You'll find a coffee van and a few picnic benches at the Mam Nick car park, but no toilets - the nearest public toilets are in Castleton, a short drive away. 

15 February 2024

Things to Do in Manchester - Runway Visitor Park

February 15, 2024 0 Comments

I've spent a total of 10 years working at an airport, and I do miss it sometimes. I admit to being a big kid at heart, and I love a bit of plane spotting - I'd sometimes go outside during my breaks, and just watch the planes take off and land while I was eating my lunch. 

Where we live now, we can see the planes descending towards Manchester Airport while we walk down the street, and sometimes even find ourselves directly under the approach path when we visit Stockport - if timed well, you can have the Emirates' A380 flying just over your head!

My kids also enjoy watching planes, and if we're in a spot where they fly low enough above our heads, they enjoy spotting which airlines the planes belong to. And there's an even better way to watch planes in Manchester - the Runway Visitor Park.

Located just a short drive from the Manchester Airport, adjacent to the runway, it offers a viewing area just a few metres away from the planes! You'll be able to spot anything from smaller Ryanair and EasyJet planes to major international carriers like British Airways, Air Canada, or KLM, and even the Emirates' huge A380 which always attracts a crowd.

The park provides a large fenced area for watching the planes on the runway. There's a raised viewing area closer to the terminal, which is where you get closest to the plane as they taxi to and from the runway. Beyond that, you'll find a grass-covered space along the runway, with picnic tables scattered around, and a plane-themed playground.

If you're in need of refreshments, there's a café with indoor seating, and a smaller building next door holds a souvenir shop and toilet facilities.

For those looking for something more than just plane spotting from the side, the Park offers a variety of tours and experiences. While wandering around, you can have a look at the AVRO RJX - the last aircraft to be fully made in the UK, forward section of Monarch plane, or take a peek inside the Trident which was the first airplane to make a fully automated approach and landing.

There are guided tours available too - you can choose between exploring the famous Concorde or retired RAF Nimrod, or go and see both. 

Youngest plane enthusiasts can enjoy one of the Flight Academy Airport Life tours, suitable for kids 4+ (there are two groups available, for ages 4-7 and 8-12). Children get to go on board the Monarch DC-10, learn about various job roles at the airport, and even be a pilots for a bit - at the end they even get a certificate for completing the Academy.

Thrill seekers can try out the Fly 360 simulator, where you can have a go at flying an aircraft yourself (for ages 9+).

The Runway Visitor Park is free to visit, but there are car park charges - £5 for up to 2 hours, £10 for up to 4 hours, and £12 for over 4 hours (prices correct at the time of writing). The car park charge is included in the price of some of the paid tours. 

For more information about opening times (varying depending on the season), current prices and bookings, visit the Runway Visitor Park Website, and check the airport website for departures and arrivals so you can spot the best planes.

11 February 2024

10 Fun Date Ideas for Parents Who Struggle with Childcare

February 11, 2024 0 Comments

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February is the month of love, and even though we don't really celebrate Valentine's Day (I can't actually think of a single one we did, apart from our very first one together when we went for a trip to London), it's nice to pause and get a little bit romantic. 

As I sat down to write this, I stopped for a moment to think - when we're married and go out with our spouse, is it still "dating"? Or should we reserve the term for people who meet up to get to know one another?

If for nothing else than a lack of a better term, let's keep calling it "dating" - it's still making time for each other, maybe doing something a little special together, just the two of us.

I think after having children it feels even more like dating to actually be able to go out on our own, just be the couple again. But it can be really hard to find that time to spend on our own - we don't have any relatives living locally who could babysit for us, so we usually plan quality time as a whole family. 

It's a little easier now that both kids are at school, as we're able to plan some activities for just the two of us during school hours. Here are five ideas for daytime couple activities:

1. Breakfast/brunch/lunch

Because who said only candlelight dinners are romantic? If you can both manage a couple of hours during the day, breakfast dates are great! Most places, even the most popular spots, are also quieter during the week, so you can enjoy a more relaxed atmosphere.

2. Cinema trip

When we are really keen on the newest blockbuster, daytime cinema trip it is. Sometimes it doesn't quite work out with the timing - you need to consider the time to get to and back from the cinema, then the length of the movie itself, and add about half an hour of adverts and trailers on top of that. But when all that works out well in between school drop off and pick up time, then again it's a less busy time - and who knows, you might end up getting a private screening if no one else turns up!

3. A walk in the park

Sometimes it's all about the simple things. When you're a parent, a trip to the park is usually a child-centered activity. It's nice to just have a walk and a chat, without needing to keep an eye on the kids, being asked to play, or getting nagged for some ice cream. On a warm, dry day, if you have time to spare, it could be nice to have a picnic too.

4. Visit an art gallery or a museum

Museums can be a fantastic rainy day activity with the kids, but, depending on their ages, they might only find a select few exhibitions interesting - mine love a visit to the Science and Industry Museum, where the whole of the 1st floor is dedicated to interactive activities for children, but aren't really into regular exhibitions where you simply walk around looking at stuff. A date at the museum could give you a chance to see all those things that kids made you rush past.

5. Go bowling

While it might not be the most romantic thing in the world, it's good fun and a way to blow off some steam. And since you've been together for a while, it's less awkward than if you were still in the dating stage and wanted to make a good impression.

If you can only get time together in the evenings, when children are at home, there are still some things you could do to feel like you're on a proper date after they've gone to bed. Here are five ideas for a date night in, for parents who can't get childcare:

1. Movie night at home

One of the easiest ideas ever. You can put on one of your all-time favourites, but the best effect choose a movie you haven't seen yet - it will feel almost as good as actually going out to the cinema, but with the added bonus of being able to snuggle up on your sofa. Make some popcorn and other snacks, turn the lights off, and get the cinema feeling on.

2. Have a fancy meal

Cook something special, different from what you usually have for dinner. Maybe a dish from a cuisine of a country on your bucket list? Or something fancy you've seen on TV, but never tried making yourself. Or that dish that you love, but never cook for family dinners, because kids won't touch it! Alternatively, order a takeaway - again, maybe from some place you wouldn't normally try because of the children.

3. At-home spa 

You can't go wrong with a little bit of pampering. Light some nice-smelling candles, get you both some face masks, foot soak, and good massage oils. And if any of you is like my husband, needing a more intensive massage after a day stuck in one position, I highly recommend getting one of those massage guns with various attachments - works wonders for me too, when my previously broken foot plays up.

4. Garden/backyard picnic

More of an idea for when the days get longer, and warmer. Up here in Manchester, the summer days get really long, and it stays light until well after 10pm. After getting the children to bed, get out into the garden/backyard. Hang some fairy lights on the fence for the mood, get a nice drink (we enjoy a glass of non-alcoholic G&T or a mocktail), some snacks, or even eat that fancy dinner al fresco.

5. Play board games

Board games are usually a family activity here, but they can be great fun for a couple too. You could choose something for the older players that you can't normally play with the kids, or go for the family favourite and enjoy getting more competitive than you do against your children.

So that's 10 examples of things you can do as a couple with children but no childcare available - not just for Valentine's Day. Just think about what you both enjoy doing, set some time aside, and go for it!

05 February 2024

5 Practical Tips for Ramadan

February 05, 2024 0 Comments
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Due to the Islamic calendar being a lunar one, Ramadan starts about ten days earlier every year of the Gregorian calendar. Hence it feels like it comes faster every year, because it starts ten days earlier, even though it's still a year since the last one.

As the Ramadan approaches earlier again, it's easy to feel unprepared - even though it's my 11th year as a Muslim convert/revert, and so my 11th Ramadan.

I won't lie to you, I'm not one of those people who excitedly share on social media how much they're looking forward to Ramadan. I usually don't - it's physically draining, and I'm probably not in the same place spiritually as some people. But I think this is the case for a lot of people and not enough of us admit to it - we're only human after all, might experience spiritual highs and lows, and we're all in different places on our journey. And that's okay to admit.

I might not necessarily look forward to Ramadan every time, but I still observe it by fasting, keeping regular prayers, and trying to add extra worship during that month. Here are my ten tips to prepare for Ramadan, and to make the most of it regardless of how you feel going into it.

1. Set yourself realistic goals

It doesn't have to be a long list. I usually set out to read 1 Juz of the Quran a day (I read in English or Polish), intending to complete it in 30 days. I also make a goal to learn a new (short) surah. It can be anything else - learning 99 names of Allah, reading a new Islamic book, maybe going to the mosque more often. Just make sure it's something you think you'll be able to keep up with, so you don't end Ramadan disappointed in yourself.

If you're a planner kind of person, I designed a really simple Ramadan Planner - this, and a few other versions, are available as instant downloads for you to print at home, in my Etsy shop 

And if you need a more comprehensive journal and/or prefer a paperback copy sent directly to you, there's plenty of Ramadan planners on Amazon to choose from.

Again, when setting your own goals, make sure they're achievable for you personally - you'll feel better accomplishing one or two simple goals at the end of Ramadan, than if you try to take on too much and don't succeed.

2. Stock up and make a meal plan

Again, I don't mean anything crazy - I'm not telling you here to go crazy like people did in the lockdowns, or plan your meals for the whole month ahead!

In the UK many major supermarkets have a lot of offers and promotions before Ramadan. It's a great time to stock up on essentials that have lower prices, and there's often more variety of products. What we do ahead of Ramadan is stock up on the stuff that will get used the most: big bags of flour and rice, large bottle of oil, tins of tomatoes, packs of lentils and chickpeas - it's all the stuff we get in larger, bulk packs, and the logic is to get the heavy stuff before Ramadan starts, so then we can just do smaller top-up shops throughout the month when we start lacking energy. 

Meal plan isn't something I do regularly, and I don't strictly stick to one in Ramadan either. I find, however, that it helps to have a general idea of what we think we'll want to eat - it helps avoid thinking too much about what to cook every day, and helps with the shopping list too (we all know what happens when you go shopping on an empty stomach and without a plan).

I also find it helpful to batch cook before Ramadan - I don't do much because of the small freezer space, but it's good to have a few meals ready for the days when you don't have time or energy left to cook. Other than that, when I make fresh meals, I try to choose something that can be made to last at least two days, rather than spending every day stressing in the kitchen. 

3. Clean and decorate the house

I love a bit of a spring clean ahead of Ramadan. I declutter, reorganise stuff, and all that. I find it helpful for two reasons: first of all, a clear house = a clear mind (or so they say). Doing a deep clean before Ramadan means that I only have regular, small daily tasks to do, and rather than distract myself with a deep clean while fasting, I can use this time for reading and learning. The second reason is that decluttering potentially means finding items to donate to charity - great time to get rid of those clothes you keep telling yourself you'll lose weight for, or the toys that are still good but now forgotten.

Since having children I also decorate the house for Ramadan and Eid - in recent years this has become a really common thing to do, and decorations can be found pretty much everywhere. eBay is probably my favourite place for finding Ramadan and Eid decorations on a budget, as they have everything from hanging wall decor or balloons to partyware or even full sets of decorations for all your needs. I find that decorating for Ramadan sets the mood, and helps us all feel that this is a special time of the year - it also gives the children more excitement, as they get the same atmosphere as others do over Christmas. 

4. Be mindful about the media you consume

Music is definitely my guilty pleasure - I love getting the headphones on for cleaning or exercise, or even when I pop out of the house alone. Alternatively, I enjoy playing commentary YouTubers in the background. During Ramadan, however, I do try to avoid that. I swap music for Quran recitation (Mr also plays it in the car instead of the radio) - my favourite band released a new album in Ramadan last year, but as much as I wanted to listen to it straight away, I put it off. I also swap the YouTube drama for something more informative - last year I was listening to the Islamic History Podcast.

5. Organise activities for the children

Last year a large portion of Ramadan fell over kids' Easter holidays, and it will be similar this time - depending on actual dates for Ramadan and Eid, my two will be at home for nearly 2 weeks, so almost the full second half of Ramadan. 

Over the past few years, we gathered a small collection of children's books about Ramadan - my favourite places to buy them from are Kube Publishing and Muslim Children's Books, but I also occasionally order them from Amazon for convenience.

Some of our favourite Ramadan titles include: "It's Ramadan, Curious George", "Hassan and Aneesa Love Ramadan", "Tell Me More About Ramadan", and "Ramadan Moon" - they are aimed more at the younger children, so my daughter still enjoys them. My eldest, however, is a more advanced reader, so for him we have a few of Zanib Mian's books - Migo and Ali are still enjoyed here, as well as the Planet Omar and Meet The Maliks series.

Another thing to keep the children occupied in a positive way is Ramadan activity books - my daughter was definitely more interested in that than my son, and again it's something more for the younger children as those activity books tend to mostly contain colouring pages. My favourite over time was the Momin Explorers Ramadan Activity Book which includes templates for DIY Ramadan and Eid decorations, greeting cards, and bookmarks, so there are some things to get the children more involved.

Whether you're eagerly awaiting Ramadan or feeling a little apprehensive, hopefully these little tips can help you get prepared for Ramadan in a practical way, so that you can focus more on your spiritual enrichment over this holy month.

04 February 2024

Becoming Muslim - My Revert Story

February 04, 2024 0 Comments

Growing up, you could say I had a pretty sheltered life - born in freshly post-communist Poland, spent my whole life in a small town, with extremely limited experience of different cultures. Raising children in England, I appreciate how much they learn about different cultures and religions at school, while our RE classes were all about the Catholic Church, and I only ever remember having a very brief (and not entirely correct) introduction to other main religions.

My knowledge of Islam before moving to the UK was that basic, stereotypical one - I knew the basic stuff, like the belief in Allah, Prophet Muhammad, five daily prayers, and fasting in Ramadan. From what I'd ever learned at school, I never knew just how many countries Islam dominates in, and considered it a domain of Arab countries. And obviously thought those poor covered women are all so oppressed.

When it came to my own faith, I was born in a Catholic family. Baptised as a baby, attended church every Sunday, and had my First Communion. Attended extra worship during Lent and Advent, and had the Confirmation in my teenage years, although that was more because everyone did it, rather than the conscious confirmation of faith that it's technically supposed to be. I had a time though, when I did want to get more into it - my friends convinced me it would be fun to go to a summer camp with the local church, and I even tried to join the church's youth group after coming back, but I ended up feeling really out of place and never quite into the worship just as much as the others were.

Fast forward to the move to England, and entering this melting pot of cultures. I was trying to remember my first impressions some time ago, but can't really think of how I felt being immersed in this multicultural environment. I think I was just in overall shock of being alone in the new place, and didn't really focus that much on the variety of people around me.

What I do remember though, are the Muslim girls that were in my class at uni. The hijabis fascinated me at first - I mean the fact that those, in my mind, "oppressed" young women were in higher education, when I was always led to believe that they weren't really allowed to do anything with their lives. That was my first opportunity to learn that Muslim women can be really fun, cool, into their clothes and make-up like anyone else, and beyond everything really smart and ambitious.

In the years that followed, Islam still really wasn't something I would be interested in. I've been around various Muslims a fair bit, they changed my general view of them as a whole, but it was more along the lines of "you do you", and just living alongside each other.

I first really started exploring Islam more, when I moved in with my husband. Not really because I was extremely interested as such, but I felt like I needed to know more if I was going to spend the rest of my life with this person. I know how some say "I married a man, not his culture or religion", but for me, these are the things that shaped the man I married, so I wanted to know what influenced the way he is.

The first big thing I encountered in our relationship, was the nikah - the Islamic marriage, which I mentioned in one of my earlier posts. Food played a big role too as I made a switch to a halal butcher, and started being more careful about what I bought in case it contained pork or alcohol. I started realising that Islam is this whole way of life, outlined in the Quran, and I wanted to learn more about that.

I started watching scholars' lectures on YouTube, and then Mr brought me a copy of the English translation of the Quran that I could read. So I read, I listened to explanations of the Quranic verses, I listened to comparisons of the teachings of Islam to Christianity. I loved the overall logic that I found behind certain beliefs.

Contrary to what some people might assume, neither my husband nor his family ever pushed me into accepting Islam. It was my own curiosity, and it took me about two years to decide this is what I actually believed in, that it agreed with me more than the Catholic faith I was brought up in. I don't think my husband even knew how much I got into it - I just occasionally asked him about something I'd read or heard, to clarify. I started looking for Muslim women's blogs and YouTube channels to connect with, and I watched hijab tutorials when he wasn't around just so he wouldn't get overly excited about my interest. 

I eventually realised where I was going wrong with my whole journey - I thought that if I was ever going to convert, I'd have to first know all there was to know, learn how to pray, be ready to wear the hijab, the full works. I didn't look at it as work in progress - I didn't consider how people born into any religion still have to go through their whole lives learning. Just as I didn't get baptised as a baby fully knowing what I was getting into, but had to learn everything growing up, I shouldn't have been putting this pressure on myself to be ready-moulded Muslim before I even admitted I wanted to be one.

After that realisation, one evening I finally said to my husband "I think I want to be a Muslim". I repeated the words of shahada after him, and that was that. A few days later he booked me a meeting with an imam in the mosque, because after reading somewhere that I might need a certificate if I ever wanted to perform Umrah or Hajj, I wanted to have the official piece of paper for the future. We went with one of his cousins as another witness for me, the imam made sure I wasn't coerced into anything and knew what I was doing, and the rest is history really!

That was in 2013. I've obviously learned to pray since, but I'm still not the perfect Muslim I thought I'd become. I dress modestly, but don't wear the hijab (I did for some time, but decided to stop). I don't regularly go to the mosque, and struggle to connect with other Muslims, but I'm generally anti-social nowadays so I struggle to connect with anyone really ;) I still don't read Arabic, often struggle with connecting in prayer, and don't get as excited about Ramadan as some people do. Throwing In Sha Allah or Alhamdulillah into conversation still doesn't feel natural. But this is the way of life I chose to follow, what I felt was the right thing to do for the future of our family, and beyond anything else that I believe in.