02 January 2022

02/01, World Introvert Day - what makes an introvert

Sunday, January 02, 2022 0 Comments

 Happy World Introvert Day!


A hand holding a cup. Text on the cup says busy introverting. 



It might seem weird that someone blogging and active on social media, hence exposing at least parts of their life on life, can be described as an introvert - you'd probably assume that an introvert is simply that antisocial person, who stays in their own bubble and doesn't share anything with anyone.

While partially true, the term "introvert" along with its opposite of "extrovert" has been devised by psychologist Carl Jung in the 1920s, and refers more to the way we use our energy. While extroverts get their energy from social contacts, introverts would recharge through time alone with their minds.

If you're not really familiar with either term and might only just be looking to define yourself, here are some general behaviour patterns common for introverts:
  • Needing quiet space to concentrate
  • Taking time making decisions
  • Often escaping into their imagination, daydreaming
  • Feeling tired and overwhelmed by large social gatherings
  • Not having a large social circle, but staying very close to those you do befriend
  • Feeling comfortable being alone for longer periods 
  • Preference to write rather than talk
  • Preference to work alone rather than with a group

That feeling of dread when you have to make or take the phone call - sounds familiar? I'm terrible for it! I'm fine talking to my husband, parents, and maybe a couple of friends. And I can do school office and GP appointments. Otherwise please text me or send an email, thanks. If I can sort something out online rather than on the phone, trust me to do it! And if not, I have to psych myself up before making that phone call and will postpone it as long as possible. Took me a week to make a hospital appointment for a dental referral last time, although that had the fear of dentist added to it to be fair.

Introverts tend to be a part of a wider spectrum, and often can have some extroverted traits. Like I hate meeting new people and will not go out seeking friendship myself, but once I'm familiar with someone I sometimes feel like a bit of an extrovert comes out, I open up and might talk a lot. And I like busy places, will take a big loud city over the quiet countryside any time!

In 2011, a study found there are four basic types of introverts: social, thinking, anxious, and inhibited. There are also varieties according to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, which outlines characteristics of 16 personality types -  you can find various online tests based on their theory, that can help you find out more about your own type. According to the one I did and found crazily accurate, I'm an INFT-P personality, the "Turbulent Mediator" - quiet, often lost in imagination, looking for a fulfilling career that I'd genuinely love, sometimes lonely and isolated as struggling to reach out to people. Read HERE and you'll get a pretty good insight into me I'd say.

One misconception that most people have is that all introverts are shy. In most cases they just prefer peace and quiet, small groups over crowds, and simply enjoy the alone time to recharge. There are, however, the "anxious introverts" mentioned above, who feel awkward and shy around people - I suppose that would be me then. I'm fine with basic interactions, like shops, cafes, etc, and with people I'm already familiar with, but try to introduce me to a new crowd and I'll be freaking out. Invite me to a party, I'll just hang out with people I already know. 

Also, although it might sound strange, it can get lonely. While as a Mediator type I value the friendships I do have, and like for them to be long-lasting and meaningful with a handful of people rather than having a large social circle to hang out with, I also tend to withdraw and often find it hard to reach out to people, especially after a longer break in contact. 


To conclude - introversion is a really broad subject. There are different types of introverted personalities, with varying needs and traits. It doesn't always equal shyness, although it can, and while we like being alone we still can be upset by the loneliness. 



That's just briefly touching on the main idea - for more visit, for example, https://www.healthline.com/health/what-is-an-introvert, where you can also find links to some studies about different types of introverts, or learn more about the difference between introversion, shyness and social anxiety. To find your own personality type, check out https://www.16personalities.com/ for super accurate (at least for me) analysis.

01 January 2022

2022

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Hello, and welcome or welcome back! 

It's been a funny couple of years... I have actually taken a step back from here for the whole of 2021. In 2020 I did try to get this blog back on track, did a few things that were in line with what I originally wanted it to be, but it sort of flopped. Not gonna lie, that was massively discouraging and made me think whether there was any point in me trying to run it anymore. I wasn't really feeling it in the past year, I accepted the fact that my life just isn't particularly exciting and maybe there's just not enough in it to blog about.

But you know what? I thought I'd give it another go. I've done a little bit of work on the website's look, went through the old content deleting irrelevant posts, put a few back into drafts for some little updates, and have a notebook filled with new ideas - it's now just a matter of me actually converting them into digital content!

In the meantime, especially if you happen to be new here, do check out my refreshed "About Me" page as your starting point, and I'd love it if you would check out my social media (all buttons on the right) and maybe follow me there :)

18 November 2020

Halal-friendly jellies - Asda

Wednesday, November 18, 2020 0 Comments

Welcome to another installment of my halal jelly guide! It's ASDA's turn today, after already looking at Tesco and Sainsbury's. If you haven't seen one of these before, we'll be looking at which of the supermarkets' own jellies are halal diet-friendly.





I think ASDA was actually the shop that first gave me the idea for these posts, as it's the one we currently use the most alongside Lidl and probably buy their own brand sweets most often. Now you might think it would've made sense for me to post about those first, but I actually did Tesco and Sainsbury's first for that very reason, that I don't go there often - I happened to have a rare chance to visit those, so I decided to just get that done.

Anyway, ASDA's halal-friendly jellies and such. We do buy them quite a bit because Aminah is crazy for jellies (especially the fizzy rainbow belts, sour as anything but she would happily go through the whole pack if I let her!), they come in nice little packs and are normally 5 for £1.Let's see what we can choose from:



1. Jelly beans - As I mentioned in the previous posts, a popular one in our house, so I'm glad to find them with the green V sign. I did, however, notice shellac on the list of ingredients, and I said earlier that I had doubts whether it's halal or not. After a quick check, I discovered that the Vegetarian Society actually considers shellac to be vegetarian (although not all sweets containing shellac are marked vegetarian) - more details HERE.





2. Midget gems - Here's a bit of a different one from our usual choice. These fruity gummies are a bit of a classic here, along with wine gums. On that note, ASDA's wine gums are halal-friendly too (despite the name, they do not contain alcohol), but they wouldn't have any takers here so I chose not to buy any.





Back to the standard offering - sadly yet again the strawberry pencils (cables) don't make the list, as they contain pork gelatine.


3. Strawberry and Rainbow laces








4. Rainbow belts






5. Strawberry and cola wands







That's all I have found in ASDA that could get on my halal-friendly list. If you think you have anything to add or correct, do let me know! Hope you're enjoying my mini-series here, I welcome any suggestions on what to explore next :)

04 November 2020

Halal-friendly jellies - Tesco

Wednesday, November 04, 2020 0 Comments

Welcome back to my little Halal Food Guide! As I mentioned in the previous post of the series, I'm trying to take the blog back to its basics and explore more about halal-friendly food choices. I'm currently focusing on sweets and jellies, and last time I looked at Sainsbury's offering. Next up: Tesco.




 

The nearest Tesco to us is an Extra store, so I was hoping for a good selection. Well, can't say I was that impressed - same standard choice as everywhere, and boo-hoo the strawberry pencils have gelatine in them! Let's have a look at what we CAN have then - again, I've only picked from the jellies and other soft sweets that need a gelling agent.




1. Mini Jelly Beans - Really glad to see those with a V symbol, they are always popular with the kids. I mentioned last time about the shellac that's used in some brands of jelly beans, and that I try to avoid it as doubtful, so these are just a safe option to pick up.

 



2. Strawberry/cola/bubblegum lances - Pretty standard offering, so far they seem to be veggie in all the shops I've gotten them from. The bubblegum flavour was something new for us though, it was great to see a different one to the usual choice of strawberry and cola.





3. Milk bottles - These were a bit of a surprise. While getting the stuff for these posts I go through every single kind of sweets on the shelf looking at ingredients, even if I might've seen the same sweet in another shop and I know it would usually contain gelatine. We really liked these, they taste like sweet cream and have a good texture - sometimes veggie jellies aren't as nice as those with animal gelatine, because of different gelling agents used the textures can be a bit off, but these were pretty good.


 



4. Fizzy Multicoloured Belts - Another pretty standard one across all the shops.


 





5. Strawberry Laces - Or "jelly spaghetti" as my kids call them. Another one that's usually veggie across the shops.


 


This was all that I found in Tesco (from their own brand) that was halal-friendly - kind of expected more, as their own brand sweets selection was quite big, but that's always something and we did get couple of new things 👍

02 October 2020

Halal-friendly jellies - Sainsbury's

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When I first started this blog, the idea was to share my own journey of learning about halal food and life as a new Muslim. And maybe throw some parenting bits to the mix, as I was about to have my first baby. I wanted to help others in my position, share what I've learned - mainly about the halal food, as I was exploring it wasn't just about giving up pork and alcohol - I've realised for example how many products have gelatine in them, and what other ingredients aren't halal.

That turned me into a serial label checker - whenever I'm buying something new that I haven't tried before, I always read the label first. In the UK it's a bit easier, as I normally just need to look for the "suitable for vegetarians/vegans" bit, or the green "V" sign on the packet. I find, however, that some products might miss that little note even though the ingredients indicate that they are suitable for vegetarians, so if something doesn't obviously contain animal-derived ingredients (as in if it's not clearly a meat product), I always double-check.

Now, the trickiest thing to buy over the years, especially since having kids, have been sweets - jellies in particular. Yes, there are some halal ones available - always a bit of choice in local halal shops and even most supermarkets will have some in the World Foods aisle. It's mostly imported Haribo though, and I find them slightly overpriced - and contrary to some people's belief, stuff doesn't have to have a "halal" logo slapped on to be halal - if it doesn't contain haram ingredients, you're good to go.

So I decided to resume the "Halal Food Guide" thing I was doing some time ago, and this time I'll be focusing on jellies. I've had this idea that I'd go through supermarkets' own sweets and check out the choices - I normally just go for tried and tested, or check as I go, but thought it would be good to actually know how much stuff is available there that we can safely buy.







First up - Sainsbury's own sweets range. I picked up everything that was vegetarian/vegan friendly - I only chose the gummies and soft sweets that you could potentially expect to find gelatine in, rather than boiled sweets that won't normally have any unsuitable ingredients. 




1. Fizzy straws and belts - these can be found in probably all major supermarkets, and so far I think I've always found them to be vegetarian. Similarly, strawberry and cola laces (for some reason I don't have photos of those here).








2. Fizzy Rainbow Pencils - pencils one of my favourites, with the soft centre and the jelly coating. I usually buy strawberry pencils in other places, but to my surprise the Sainsbury's ones have beef gelatine in them. They are pretty much the same thing, except the rainbow ones are thicker and well, rainbow - I'd expect both varieties to be vegetarian really.


  




3. Mini Jelly Beans - this is a popular choice with the kids. Many varieties use shellac as coating, which is derived from insects - I have found conflicting opinions on whether shellac is halal or not (if anyone has a reliable source to confirm either way, feel free to share!), so always best to just stick to the veggie ones.


  



4. Fizzy Fangs - it was great to find these, just a little more variety than the usual choice of the fizzy straws and rainbow belts (typing this has just made me realise that we didn't pick any up!)


  




5. Fruit Jellies - these were a hit with us grown-ups! Shaped like fruit segments, they're delightfully soft and fruity. We've found similar ones in Poundland a while ago and regretted not buying more - they also remind me of jellies I used to eat back home, shaped like orange or lemon slices 



  




6. Flying saucers - not jellies, but as I picked them up I thought I might as well include them here. They are sherbet-filled wafers, not just vegetarian but vegan too.


  





If I missed anything else, feel free to let me know! This is the selection I managed to pick up on my recent visit to Sainsbury's, in case of any doubts conduct your own checks x







24 September 2020

Fun at home with Fiesta Crafts masks*

Thursday, September 24, 2020 0 Comments

 *We were sent the Unicorn Head mask craft kit for the purpose of this review

With Adam back at school, Aminah and I now have lots of time for just the two of us. With the weather being... well, typical British weather, and with nowhere to go with restrictions still in place here, it means a lot of time at home. 

She's at that age when she absolutely loves pretend play and dressing up - as much as she enjoys roaring like a dinosaur, being a pirate or a superhero, most of the time it's all about makeup, wearing pretty dresses and being a princess, unicorns and rainbows. Seriously, what's the deal with unicorns though? Were they as popular when we were little?

Quite understandably then, she went absolutely mad for the Unicorn Head mask craft kit, which we have received from Fiesta Crafts.




The Fiesta Crafts mask kits contain all the elements to make your own 3D mask - there are 8 cool designs to choose from, which are great for pretend play and as part of fancy dress costumes.



 


They come as flat-packed craft kits, suitable for children aged 5+ - Aminah is just under 3 so her job was just to wear it and be a unicorn, but Adam could do it with a bit of help. This one consists of just 4 parts to put together, and easy to follow instruction card. You also don't need anything extra, like glue or tape, as all the elements are joined by putting small tabs into slots, which are all numbered too.






Once complete, the mask was an instant hit - it's a little too big for Aminah, but that doesn't stop her. To my surprise, Adam quite liked it too, and happily tried it on. However, I could see he's a little disappointed we didn't get the dinosaur one instead, so I *might* have ordered one for him ;) 






We don't celebrate Halloween, but these masks would make a great part of a costume - for any fancy dress party actually. They are made of a quite sturdy card, and actually big enough for adults too (I can fit my big head in, but not really great with glasses!) - I can see the mask lasting quite a while, even with my wild two!